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noorinwonderland asked: Just wanted to let you know that I was actually having a really bad couple of months and as I came across your blog and read many of your writings it put me in tears. It made me look at myself differently, I am able to express to myself how I truly feel cause at some point I was too depressed to understand what was evening going on within me, Thank you.

oh the ‘journal’ tag was basically all posts that i can relate to, most of them aren’t mine but i have some of my writings there too. i’m glad it did, i love you if you need something i’m here for you. stay strong love x x

One of the emotional epidemics of this day and age is low self-esteem. So many teenagers, and even adults suffer from self-esteem issues, and one of the reasons we have such low self-esteem is because of the media and the way they represent the ‘perfect’ person. No one should ever feel bad about themselves, but of course it does happen sometimes, but it shouldn’t be something constant. Self-loathing is a terrible thing to practice, so make a promise to yourself, right here right now to try these tips to being a happier, healthier, better you. 
The first step to being happier with yourself, is to realise that the perfect person doesn’t exist. There’s no such thing as perfection, I promise you!
Be a positive person. You can read more about being positive, I did another post about it which you can find here! Stop putting yourself down and realise that we all make mistakes! 
Make a list of your top 5 best traits and keep the list close by, it’ll do wonders for your self-esteem!
Look in the mirror and say the things you like about yourself that day out loud. “My hair looks great today!” “This shirt makes my body look amazing” “I am looking pretty freakin rad in these sunglasses!”. 
Continuing on from my last point, where things that make YOU feel confident! Do your hair the way YOU like it! If you wanna wear space buns to school, do it. Anyone who judges you is just avoiding judging themselves (probably because of low self-esteem, do you see where I’m going here?)
Compliment other people, not only will it make them feel good, you’ll be feeling pretty rad yourself for putting a smile on a stranger’s face. You know what they say, ‘a compliment a day keeps the blues away’ (okay maybe not really, but it’s a good thing to remember)!
Find something you’re good at AND enjoy! You have to like something to be happy. If you’re super rad at soccer and you enjoy  playing, join a team! If you can paint like Picasso and it de-stresses you to the max, take an art class! You don’t have to be good at something to do it, especially if you enjoy it, but that little confidence boost you get when you can do something well is a really great added extra!
Tell yourself you’re beautiful every single day. You’ll start to realise your worth. It might take 1 month, it might take a year but eventually you will understand how unique and beautiful you are!
Everyone has low self-esteem at one point or another, it’s unavoidable. But I do think the reason that bullying is also such a big problem is because the bullies themselves would rather pick on other people’s imperfections than have to face their own.
I really hope that this year we can all lead in the fight against low self-esteem because there’s no reason for it! You’re beautiful, the person you last talked to is beautiful, we’re all freaking beautiful and it’s about time we all start to believe it!
-Shaina
(photo credit: shaina/dahyzie)

One of the emotional epidemics of this day and age is low self-esteem. So many teenagers, and even adults suffer from self-esteem issues, and one of the reasons we have such low self-esteem is because of the media and the way they represent the ‘perfect’ person. No one should ever feel bad about themselves, but of course it does happen sometimes, but it shouldn’t be something constant. Self-loathing is a terrible thing to practice, so make a promise to yourself, right here right now to try these tips to being a happier, healthier, better you. 

  • The first step to being happier with yourself, is to realise that the perfect person doesn’t exist. There’s no such thing as perfection, I promise you!
  • Be a positive person. You can read more about being positive, I did another post about it which you can find here! Stop putting yourself down and realise that we all make mistakes! 
  • Make a list of your top 5 best traits and keep the list close by, it’ll do wonders for your self-esteem!
  • Look in the mirror and say the things you like about yourself that day out loud. “My hair looks great today!” “This shirt makes my body look amazing” “I am looking pretty freakin rad in these sunglasses!”. 
  • Continuing on from my last point, where things that make YOU feel confident! Do your hair the way YOU like it! If you wanna wear space buns to school, do it. Anyone who judges you is just avoiding judging themselves (probably because of low self-esteem, do you see where I’m going here?)
  • Compliment other people, not only will it make them feel good, you’ll be feeling pretty rad yourself for putting a smile on a stranger’s face. You know what they say, ‘a compliment a day keeps the blues away’ (okay maybe not really, but it’s a good thing to remember)!
  • Find something you’re good at AND enjoy! You have to like something to be happy. If you’re super rad at soccer and you enjoy  playing, join a team! If you can paint like Picasso and it de-stresses you to the max, take an art class! You don’t have to be good at something to do it, especially if you enjoy it, but that little confidence boost you get when you can do something well is a really great added extra!
  • Tell yourself you’re beautiful every single day. You’ll start to realise your worth. It might take 1 month, it might take a year but eventually you will understand how unique and beautiful you are!

Everyone has low self-esteem at one point or another, it’s unavoidable. But I do think the reason that bullying is also such a big problem is because the bullies themselves would rather pick on other people’s imperfections than have to face their own.

I really hope that this year we can all lead in the fight against low self-esteem because there’s no reason for it! You’re beautiful, the person you last talked to is beautiful, we’re all freaking beautiful and it’s about time we all start to believe it!

-Shaina

(photo credit: shaina/dahyzie)

DIY Cactus Garden!
Cacti are great plants for both inside and outside. They’re ideal if you’re living in an apartment, and you still want a garden of some kind! If you want to make a rad cactus garden like the one above, keep reading!
Materials
-Cacti or Succulents (They’re around $3-6 at your local garden centre)
-A super cute pot big enough to hold all your rad new cacti. I really like the look of clear ones, but you could definitely go for something similar to the picture above!
-Soil. The soil in your original cacti pots should have some kind of potting mix in it, so adding that will substitute for anything else you’ll need!
-Gloves
Step 1
Fill your pot up with the soil and your read to get this DIY really started!
Step 2
Do not take the cacti out of the pot! Keep them in the pot and make an arrangement either in the new pot, or next to it. Take a photo incase you move anything and can’t remember where it goes! 
Step 3
Time to plant! Carefully lift your cacti and succulents out of their pots (you might wanna wear gloves for this step!) and plant them one by one into your new pot in the arrangement you set up earlier! Cacti & succulents don’t like being handled too much so once you take them out of the pot and plant them, try not to move them around too much!
Step 4
Find a place for your new rad garden to live, maybe your windowsill in your bedroom, or maybe even on your patio if you have one! The possibilities are endless!
Tips & Tricks
-Add some cute coloured rocks to the top of the soil to cover any brown & to make the garden look even better!
-If you get any prickles in your fingers use sticky tape to get them out! It’s faster than taking them out one by one and it won’t hurt as much!
I hope you enjoyed this DIY and give it a go! It’s fairly easy but it’s a rad addition to any room :)
-Shaina
(photo credit: doNYC)

DIY Cactus Garden!

Cacti are great plants for both inside and outside. They’re ideal if you’re living in an apartment, and you still want a garden of some kind! If you want to make a rad cactus garden like the one above, keep reading!

Materials

-Cacti or Succulents (They’re around $3-6 at your local garden centre)

-A super cute pot big enough to hold all your rad new cacti. I really like the look of clear ones, but you could definitely go for something similar to the picture above!

-Soil. The soil in your original cacti pots should have some kind of potting mix in it, so adding that will substitute for anything else you’ll need!

-Gloves

Step 1

Fill your pot up with the soil and your read to get this DIY really started!

Step 2

Do not take the cacti out of the pot! Keep them in the pot and make an arrangement either in the new pot, or next to it. Take a photo incase you move anything and can’t remember where it goes! 

Step 3

Time to plant! Carefully lift your cacti and succulents out of their pots (you might wanna wear gloves for this step!) and plant them one by one into your new pot in the arrangement you set up earlier! Cacti & succulents don’t like being handled too much so once you take them out of the pot and plant them, try not to move them around too much!

Step 4

Find a place for your new rad garden to live, maybe your windowsill in your bedroom, or maybe even on your patio if you have one! The possibilities are endless!

Tips & Tricks

-Add some cute coloured rocks to the top of the soil to cover any brown & to make the garden look even better!

-If you get any prickles in your fingers use sticky tape to get them out! It’s faster than taking them out one by one and it won’t hurt as much!

I hope you enjoyed this DIY and give it a go! It’s fairly easy but it’s a rad addition to any room :)

-Shaina

(photo credit: doNYC)

Although it’s already a month into 2014, it’s not too late to make this year your best yet. Let go of all that negativity and move forward in life being a new positive person.
This year should be about being the best and happiest you that you can be. Some ways to reduce the negativity in your life are:
Get rid of negative people in your life! If you have a friend that’s constantly putting you down, you’ll never be a happy person! Happiness is contagious, and surrounding yourself with happy people will make you a happier person!
Reduce the stress in your life! Get rid of anything else that causes you stress and isn’t necessary in your life!
Replace negative thoughts, if something bad happens think about the positives of the situation. Late to school or work because of traffic? Now you know to leave a bit earlier so you won’t be late again. Got a bad grade on your report? If it doesn’t count to your overall grade, it’s a learning tool, you’ll do better next time, I promise! There is ALWAYS a positive side to a situation, you just have to find it.
Do something that you like! Instead of doing cheerleading to be with friends, do an after school photography class instead if that’s what you’re into! Do what makes YOU happy.
Relax. Sometimes we need to recharge and I promise once you’d had a nap or relaxed and watched your fave movie, you’ll feel so much better!
Remember that every day is a new day, a fresh start and a chance to change things.
Smile more! It’s been proven that even a forced smile can raise the levels of ‘happy chemicals’ in your brain, brightening your mood! Even if it’s only a little bit, you’re feeling a little bit more positive!
Remember that life is short and the more positive you are when facing a negative situation, the happier you’ll be in the long run! 
Make this year your best yet and be happy, it’s the best thing you can do for yourself! 
-Shaina
(photo credit: shaina/dahyzie)

Although it’s already a month into 2014, it’s not too late to make this year your best yet. Let go of all that negativity and move forward in life being a new positive person.

This year should be about being the best and happiest you that you can be. Some ways to reduce the negativity in your life are:

  • Get rid of negative people in your life! If you have a friend that’s constantly putting you down, you’ll never be a happy person! Happiness is contagious, and surrounding yourself with happy people will make you a happier person!
  • Reduce the stress in your life! Get rid of anything else that causes you stress and isn’t necessary in your life!
  • Replace negative thoughts, if something bad happens think about the positives of the situation. Late to school or work because of traffic? Now you know to leave a bit earlier so you won’t be late again. Got a bad grade on your report? If it doesn’t count to your overall grade, it’s a learning tool, you’ll do better next time, I promise! There is ALWAYS a positive side to a situation, you just have to find it.
  • Do something that you like! Instead of doing cheerleading to be with friends, do an after school photography class instead if that’s what you’re into! Do what makes YOU happy.
  • Relax. Sometimes we need to recharge and I promise once you’d had a nap or relaxed and watched your fave movie, you’ll feel so much better!
  • Remember that every day is a new day, a fresh start and a chance to change things.
  • Smile more! It’s been proven that even a forced smile can raise the levels of ‘happy chemicals’ in your brain, brightening your mood! Even if it’s only a little bit, you’re feeling a little bit more positive!

Remember that life is short and the more positive you are when facing a negative situation, the happier you’ll be in the long run! 

Make this year your best yet and be happy, it’s the best thing you can do for yourself! 

-Shaina

(photo credit: shaina/dahyzie)

Here’s a little sneak preview of the next article that will be coming out soon!
-Anna

Here’s a little sneak preview of the next article that will be coming out soon!

-Anna

From the mind of a sufferer

Eating disorders; we all know about them, probably have known someone who has suffered from one, dealt with the issue, or only understand eating disorders to be the way Hollywood dresses it up to be.

There’s nothing remotely glamorous about having an eating disorder. Sure you may shed the weight eventually but your mentality and mind set will be seriously be changed for the years to come afterwards. Like for example, I know for a fact by saying “Sure you may shed the weight eventually,…” it will just serve as a trigger for other sufferers and will help to fuel the fire of determination. I can’t look at food without trying to estimate how many calories there are per serving, I won’t even dare to touch butter, and I can’t eat normal portions of food without feeling guilty.
Elle Fanning recently starred in a short film titled “Likeness”, which was directed by Rodrigo Prieto and portrayed the struggles of a teenage girl affected by bulimia. As I watched this short film it hit a sore spot due to how accurate Prieto was as he conveyed the true mindset of a sufferer through this story. As someone who suffers you are constantly fighting a battle internally with self love and appreciation hindered by standards set by yourself and all of society. Carrying on with your daily life wearing a mask to avoid the pity of others is a heavy weight on one’s shoulder, especially when you’re trying your hardest to keep it from the ones you love.
I myself have gone back and forth between anorexia and bulimia for about a year and a half and have taken breaks within that time frame. Finding different ways to restrict myself, binge, and hide my secret became a major obsession and consumed my thoughts on a daily basis. I can’t exactly pin point where it started or why I formed these habits but I know it was back in my junior year of high school. Factors like bullying, my home situation, and who I surrounded myself with definitely came into play as these habits formed. I was 5’5, 130 pounds, and absolutely hating myself every second of the day. 
Now I’m 5’5, 109 pounds, and still as unhappy.
 Up to 24 million people of all ages and genders suffer from an eating disorder (anorexia, bulimia and binge eating disorder) in the U.S, according to theNational Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders. Those who are currently suffering or may have previously suffered from an eating disorder please know you are not alone, will never be alone, and although you may not want to seek out professional help there are so many people here who can help you through this.
-Lissette
(photo is a still from the short movie ‘Likeness’)
From the mind of a sufferer

Eating disorders; we all know about them, probably have known someone who has suffered from one, dealt with the issue, or only understand eating disorders to be the way Hollywood dresses it up to be.

There’s nothing remotely glamorous about having an eating disorder. Sure you may shed the weight eventually but your mentality and mind set will be seriously be changed for the years to come afterwards. Like for example, I know for a fact by saying “Sure you may shed the weight eventually,…” it will just serve as a trigger for other sufferers and will help to fuel the fire of determination. I can’t look at food without trying to estimate how many calories there are per serving, I won’t even dare to touch butter, and I can’t eat normal portions of food without feeling guilty.

Elle Fanning recently starred in a short film titled “Likeness”, which was directed by Rodrigo Prieto and portrayed the struggles of a teenage girl affected by bulimia. As I watched this short film it hit a sore spot due to how accurate Prieto was as he conveyed the true mindset of a sufferer through this story. As someone who suffers you are constantly fighting a battle internally with self love and appreciation hindered by standards set by yourself and all of society. Carrying on with your daily life wearing a mask to avoid the pity of others is a heavy weight on one’s shoulder, especially when you’re trying your hardest to keep it from the ones you love.

I myself have gone back and forth between anorexia and bulimia for about a year and a half and have taken breaks within that time frame. Finding different ways to restrict myself, binge, and hide my secret became a major obsession and consumed my thoughts on a daily basis. I can’t exactly pin point where it started or why I formed these habits but I know it was back in my junior year of high school. Factors like bullying, my home situation, and who I surrounded myself with definitely came into play as these habits formed. I was 5’5, 130 pounds, and absolutely hating myself every second of the day. 

Now I’m 5’5, 109 pounds, and still as unhappy.

 Up to 24 million people of all ages and genders suffer from an eating disorder (anorexia, bulimia and binge eating disorder) in the U.S, according to theNational Association of Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders. Those who are currently suffering or may have previously suffered from an eating disorder please know you are not alone, will never be alone, and although you may not want to seek out professional help there are so many people here who can help you through this.

-Lissette

(photo is a still from the short movie ‘Likeness’)

Dealing with stress
Anxiety. Everyone has it. If you’re shaking your head saying that you don’t, then you’re not telling the truth.
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Being stressed is normal, but how you deal with the stress can depend on how long it lasts, the consequences of it, and how you feel later. 
I was talking with my psychiatrist and she said that there was kind of a way to graph out our feelings during a panic/anxiety attack.

Think of it like this:
The horizontal line is time as it passes on. The vertical line is how extreme your emotions are. Now the lines on the graph can vary greatly.
The dark blue line is going up, like everything is bothering you and you just want to separate you from yourself. This line can be steeper, which is like me, meaning that your mood can change from normal to extreme in under .2 seconds.
The green at the top can be where you kind of plateau, meaning you are in that mood for that amount of time. This line can be shorter, meaning your mood can change quickly, or be longer, meaning your in this state for a longer period of time.
The orange-ish line (when I made the graph I kind of just chose random colors) is your mood getting better. For me, the orange line can take varying amounts of time. Sometimes I will feel different after ten minutes, sometimes ten days. The reason that the orange line goes beneath the horizontal axis (hey math class!) is because people tend to feel guilty about their actions and about how they made other people feel or what they may have done during their panic. This line, at least for me, goes down really far. 
The purple line is how long you stay down in that depression. Again, this line can vary a lot in length. 
The light blue line is you getting back to normal, the time depending on how bad the anxiety attack was and how guilty someone might feel. 
The light green is your normal. 
Being aware of these stages helps know where you are when you are freaking out or not able to control your emotions. Being aware can save you from the guilt. 
When you’re about midway through the dark blue line, what you can do is tell people that you need some time alone, or find things that calm you to keep you going through this huge cycle. For example: I like to be left alone and not have people asking me questions and not yell at me, but just leave me completely alone. I paint, draw, write, play video games, and listen to music, until I feel normal again. Whatever you do, just make sure you know what makes you feel good during a time of panic and what doesn’t so that way you are prepared. 
-Anna
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Dealing with stress

Anxiety. Everyone has it. If you’re shaking your head saying that you don’t, then you’re not telling the truth.

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Being stressed is normal, but how you deal with the stress can depend on how long it lasts, the consequences of it, and how you feel later. 

I was talking with my psychiatrist and she said that there was kind of a way to graph out our feelings during a panic/anxiety attack.

Think of it like this:

The horizontal line is time as it passes on. The vertical line is how extreme your emotions are. Now the lines on the graph can vary greatly.

The dark blue line is going up, like everything is bothering you and you just want to separate you from yourself. This line can be steeper, which is like me, meaning that your mood can change from normal to extreme in under .2 seconds.

The green at the top can be where you kind of plateau, meaning you are in that mood for that amount of time. This line can be shorter, meaning your mood can change quickly, or be longer, meaning your in this state for a longer period of time.

The orange-ish line (when I made the graph I kind of just chose random colors) is your mood getting better. For me, the orange line can take varying amounts of time. Sometimes I will feel different after ten minutes, sometimes ten days. The reason that the orange line goes beneath the horizontal axis (hey math class!) is because people tend to feel guilty about their actions and about how they made other people feel or what they may have done during their panic. This line, at least for me, goes down really far. 

The purple line is how long you stay down in that depression. Again, this line can vary a lot in length. 

The light blue line is you getting back to normal, the time depending on how bad the anxiety attack was and how guilty someone might feel. 

The light green is your normal. 

Being aware of these stages helps know where you are when you are freaking out or not able to control your emotions. Being aware can save you from the guilt. 

When you’re about midway through the dark blue line, what you can do is tell people that you need some time alone, or find things that calm you to keep you going through this huge cycle. For example: I like to be left alone and not have people asking me questions and not yell at me, but just leave me completely alone. I paint, draw, write, play video games, and listen to music, until I feel normal again. Whatever you do, just make sure you know what makes you feel good during a time of panic and what doesn’t so that way you are prepared. 

-Anna

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Announcement about the applications for fox magazine

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thank you so far to those who have sent in the applications for fox magazine! (application can be found here) You can still send in applications and when a few more come in, then I will make some decisions. I will be accepting some people, and others I will not get back to on, because we are keeping you in mind for in the future when another spot is open. Thank you again and you can still send in your applications!

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Breakup Breakdown

Heartbreak just sucks all around and there’s no other way to put it. Going to bed with tears streaming down your cheeks and waking up with nothing but pain and heartache is anything but glamorous. The thing that probably hurts the most is trying to make sense of the situation, trying to figure out what went wrong and whether or not it was something you did wrong. Every little thing reminds you of that one person who you thought really cared for you but for some reason they decided to end things. No one wants to face heartache, but here are some ways to ease the pain during the transition:

image Keep yourself extremely busy
  • A very common mistake is to want to sit around and take some time to absorb what happened but the reality is you’re going to need to go out and occupy your time so you’re not dwelling
  • Just sitting around pondering what you could have done better in the relationship or why you guys broke up makes you look obsessive so keeping busy is nice
  • Go read a book! It helps get your mind off of all the stuff that’s been going on!
Don’t be afraid to cry it out
  • It never hurts to express how you’re feeling and let it all out whether you’re by yourself or with your best friend. The few days following the initial heartbreak will typically consist of sleeping, crying, staying in bed, annihilating a batch of brownies, and even more crying. Don’t hesitate letting it out because trust me when I say it’ll help make things easier
  • Crying at home is good because you can just let it all out and you can scream and shout and break stuff that you won’t regret breaking later, and not do that in public
Stop dwelling
  • Before you start to go through your camera roll and look at old photos of you two together, keep in mind that the only way to move on is to avoid dwelling. What happened between you two was obviously for a reason and you need to give yourself time to heal before you go through everything. My advice for you would be to put all of the photos, screenshots, and videos under one album on your phone and don’t let yourself go through them until you know you’re ready
Don’t try to make sense of what happened
  • As cliche as it sounds everything does happen for a reason. Maybe you two will get back together some day but for now you shouldn’t revert back to the situation and try to figure out where everything went wrong. You probably didn’t do anything wrong and don’t get in the mindset where you’re telling yourself that you guys aren’t together because “he isn’t ready”, that you two will end up together in the future, or that if you try your hardest to make it work that he’d contribute too
Long story short: you might feel like everything sucks, nothing makes sense, or that you wasted your time, but keep in mind that you’re still young. Give yourself a grace period (about a week) to get yourself together but after that you need to perk up and be the strong independent person you know you are. It does get better, I promise.
With the help of friends, half a pint of your favorite ice cream and some girl power music you WILL leave the situation a stronger person. Think of it as a learning experience; I went from crying about three times a day for a week to having enough strength to know that he doesn’t deserve any of my tears. Of course I get sad here and there, but when I do feel down I keep on telling myself that if he did still care he would be with me now.
A tip from Anna: don’t wear mascara for a week after you breakup. 
(collage by dazeia)
What it feels like to be depressed
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No matter how many people are around you, saying they care for you and that they’re there for you, you feel alone. Imagine having a room filled well over it’s capacity and you’re stuck in it, but wherever you go you have a bubble of space around you that no one wants to go into because, for some reason, they all hate you. Instead of just taking the space around you, people just pile in on top of each other to avoid you. That’s what it feels like. 
It feels like there’s something inside you that’s nasty and horrible and wants to shred you to bits, and wants to come out of you and scream obscenities at everyone and cuss them out, and on some occasions, that has happened to me.
It feels like you’re trapped inside a body, and can’t escape and need to say something but you can’t because you’re trapped. You’re screaming and shouting but no one listens, either because they can’t, or they don’t care.
No matter how many people may have depression or anxiety, no matter how many people you know who are going through the same thing, you feel alone and worthless. 
-Anna
(picture not mine)

What it feels like to be depressed

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No matter how many people are around you, saying they care for you and that they’re there for you, you feel alone. Imagine having a room filled well over it’s capacity and you’re stuck in it, but wherever you go you have a bubble of space around you that no one wants to go into because, for some reason, they all hate you. Instead of just taking the space around you, people just pile in on top of each other to avoid you. That’s what it feels like. 

It feels like there’s something inside you that’s nasty and horrible and wants to shred you to bits, and wants to come out of you and scream obscenities at everyone and cuss them out, and on some occasions, that has happened to me.

It feels like you’re trapped inside a body, and can’t escape and need to say something but you can’t because you’re trapped. You’re screaming and shouting but no one listens, either because they can’t, or they don’t care.

No matter how many people may have depression or anxiety, no matter how many people you know who are going through the same thing, you feel alone and worthless. 

-Anna

(picture not mine)

 
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